Why is it that when we are happy we have a hard time telling people about it?
I don’t mean your super peppy status on Facebook, or your Save the Date announcement.
I mean general, every day happiness.
When was the last time you texted your best friend and said “everything in my life is amazing! How are you?”
I can probably answer that.
Here is the way most of my conversations with friends start:
“You are never going to believe what Wonderful Husband said”
“Guess who just started their period, not pregnant again :-(”
“So mad ______ just died on SOA!”
It is basically never positive. And when they text me it is the same thing. It seems to be a general rule that the only time you can talk to other people is when you have something to complain about.
But why is that? Why don’t we tell our friends when we are really happy?
When I am home alone for weeks at a time, or when Little Darling is having a really crappy day I reach out to my friends to vent and complain and bitch about my unhappiness. But when Wonderful Husband is home and we are having a great time being a family and Little Darling is being pleasant and sweet, I forget my phone exists and live in the moment. I almost feel guilty to reach out to my friends to tell them what a great time I am having in my life.
When did this stigma happen where we can’t just call up a friend and say, hey I was thinking of you, how are you?
I am generally always happy. I have my times where I want to scream in frustration and I need to vent. But why is there this compelling need to complain about things? Even when you are having a good day and someone complains about something, you feel the need to complain too. When you are in a conversation with a stranger or someone you don’t know that well, do you talk about good things or do you find yourself complaining about things? i.e. yea this store used to be good, but the service lately sucks! We have been in line forever! Or, yea she is a really good walker, but she isn’t talking yet!
Think about it. When was the last time you complained about something?
Was it truly worth it?
Lets all resolve to be happier this year, and not just be happier but to share that happiness with our friends and family. If you are having a really great week call someone who means something to you and ask them how they are doing and tell them you are doing good. If someone pays you a compliment in a store or at a party say thank you, don’t dismiss it. It isn’t bragging, it isn’t bad. Sharing happiness and love is a good thing and we could all stand to do a little more of it.